Christmas is my most favourite time of year. I just love everything about it! T’is the season to be jolly… right?! Give me a fa-la-la-la-la and jingle all the way, if you agree! Last Christmas however was a completely different story. I was absolutely miserable experiencing all-day sickness while I was pregnant. My husband did all of the Christmas shopping (I gifted him a Sonicare… I gave the guy a freakin’ tooth brush as his Christmas gift!), he put up our Christmas tree and decorated the entire house all while I hid under a blanket and laid on our sofa eating soda crackers with a garbage pail on stand by. How’s that for the holiday spirit? Needless to say, this year I plan on making up for last years lack of enthusiasm and I’m ready to start decorating!!! My husband on the other hand has put on the Christmas brakes until Remembrance Day is over. After November 11, I have the A-OK to start decorating. For now, I’ll just listen to my Christmas carols and light my Holly Berries and Evergreen candle.
It’s crazy to believe that this time last year, I was just a couple of months pregnant. That first trimester was a rough one! They call it morning sickness, but I was the lucky candidate who experienced the all-day sickness – nausea 24/7. My diet consisted of soda crackers (which I now refuse to look at, let a lone eat), cup-a-soups, tea and… well that’s about all that I could stomach. I was working full-time and commuting 50 minutes to and from work, five days a week and the motion of stop-and-go in traffic was enough to make me want to puke. During my lunch breaks I’d try to have a snooze in my car and after getting home from work I went straight to my sofa and fell asleep until it was bed time. At that point, my husband would wake me up, follow me up the stairs and guide me to bed. I was about as useful as a dirty rag. Luckily, my second trimester was a lot better than the first, but then the third trimester came around and took a giant sh*t on my parade. It just had to be that way, right? I suppose pregnancy was preparing me for the roller coaster of mother-hood. Whatever!
Anyways, everyone’s pregnancy is totally different and for those of you that experienced pure bliss… goodbye! Kidding, kidding… kinda kidding! All joking aside, my daughter is the greatest blessing in world and I’d go through that pregnancy on repeat for her. She was worth every bathroom stop, soda-cracker and ginger tea. As for my gift-giving… I definitely stepped it up a notch for my husbands birthday this year as he received our daughter as his birthday gift! See… it all comes full circle.
So, to all my pregnant mama’s out there who are struggling through your pregnancy… you’re not alone!! I know, I know… that’s not what you want to hear, you just want to feel better and “normal” again and you know what? You will!! This too shall pass. As for right now, here is some of my advice on how to make yourself feel a bit more comfortable during this time!
Easier said than done, but you must make time to rest. Write it down in your schedule or agenda and make it a part of your new routine! You’re growing a human and that is no easy feat. So, whether its for 10 minutes or an hour, take that time for yourself and do something that relaxes you.
2. Ask for and accept help
It doesn’t matter if you’re a first time mom or a mom of three, it’s okay to ask for help! In fact, you should get used to the idea of asking for a helping hand because once you’re a full-fledged mama you’re going to want all the help you can get! Choose a person that you can count on and use them to your full advantage – it’s totally allowed! Whether it’s to help you run a few errands, watch your children while you have a nap, tidy your house or even to simply talk or vent to without any judgement, you 100% deserve this!!
3. Leave your house!
I became a home rat during my first trimester (similar to how I was during the ‘forth’ trimester) just because it seemed easier to stay home than to venture out into the real world. I felt so sick all day, everyday and it took a toll on me both physically and mentally! Obviously, this isn’t ideal and staying at home 24/7 without a social life is no way to live!! So, as someone who can totally relate to you and understands how you’re feeling I recommend that you put your big girl pants on and LEAVE THE HOUSE! As much as sitting at home seems like the easy route, you need some tough love! You’ll have enough time to spend at home when you’re 3-weeks postpartum and can’t leave your house and when that happens, you’ll regret not having left the house when you were pregnant! I’m not suggesting that you go out on a 3-hour shopping spree and I certainly don’t recommend that you go on a long walk when you already feel tired and ill, but leaving your house from time-to -time (and not just for heading to work) is good for your health – mental and physical!
4. Always be prepared to be sick
No one enjoys the thought of being sick, but when you’re suffering from morning sickness (or the all-day kind) you must be prepared for when that nauseated feeling strikes! I stashed away Tums like a squirrel stashes nuts. I had them EVERYWHERE – car, bedside table, purse, work desk, coffee table… they were accessible to me no matter where I was. Also, carrying around a plastic bag with you isn’t the most glamorous accessory in the world, but if you ever feel like you need to toss your cookies you’ll be happy that you had one handy!
5. Don’t bombard yourself with information!
This is a tough one, but it’s also one of the most important. How many of you are Google aficionados or are quick to self diagnose yourself thanks to Wikipedia? Guilty as charged! Yes, educating yourself on pregnancy and some of the things that come along with it (labour, delivery ect.) is important, but if you’re ever experiencing symptoms that concern you or have questions regarding yours or your unborn child’s health, always consult with your doctor. The internet has lots of information and some of it can be quite alarming and inaccurate when it comes to pregnancies. Educating yourself on your pregnancy is important but just make sure the information you’re reading/hearing is valid and remember that everyone’s experiences with pregnancy is different!
I think we can all agree that morning sickness totally blows but as someone who’s gone through it I can honestly say that I plan on having more children! That in itself should encourage you to keep going! The sickness sucked but the reward… oh the reward is the best gift you’ll ever receive! Hang in there girl, you’ve got this!!